Happiness can be elusive and difficult to define. What is it? What is Happiness?

In my many years of counselling intending and married couples, it has been interesting to see the connection between peoples’ state of mind and how they conduct themselves in relationships.

The pain of disappointment is real. It often turns into lingering sorrow particularly when inflicted by people whom you trust deeply, or when our expectations are not met due to circumstances beyond our control. As a result we are left with feelings of sadness, loss, grief, even betrayal.

Many of us feel so hopeless and worthless because of what has been said to us growing up or the experiences we have had because of how we were treated.

Happiness looks different for everyone. For you, maybe it’s being at peace with who you are. Or having a secure network of friends who accept you unconditionally. Or the freedom to pursue your deepest dreams.

“Why am I here?” is a question we often ask ourselves.

Each one of us has been blessed with God-given skills and potential to fulfill our destiny. The pursuit of self-discovery and self-mastery is one of the greatest journeys we can embark on.

Hope; a powerful emotion that gives us the strength and motivation to keep going through life's experiences,, believing that things will get better, that our dreams and aspirations are reachable, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and that a positive outcome truly, is possible.

Loss is a part of life that everyone experiences at some point. It can take many forms, such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, or the loss of a cherished possession. Regardless of the specific form it takes, loss can be a difficult and painful experience that can have a profound impact on a person's emotional and mental well-being.

We all make mistakes, and it's normal to look back on certain decisions or actions and wish we could have done things differently. While regret can be a source of negative emotions, it can also be a valuable tool for personal growth and self-improvement.

Depression is real, it’s dark and its dangerous. My experience of it was growing up with a high functioning majorly depressed mother. I often rolled my eyeballs and may, to some degree, have judged her for not being “strong enough” not to deal with her mind.

Fear has been my friend from since I can remember. My oldest and most dearest friend. As a young child I remember being overwhelmed and forgetful when I broke down in tears because I was afraid.

Why are you attracted to an older man?

Know your personality before you get in.

First of all have you ever asked yourself why you seem to be attracted to a much older man?

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

I was recently reading the book of Daniel when I noticed how fickle man can be. The southern kingdom of Judah was invaded by Babylonian King Nebuchadnezzer. God’s people were taken captive and exiled in Babylon. He then ordered for young men who were handsome, smart and of nobility to be culturally integrated over a period of 3 years

Healthy relationships have been shown to increase our happiness, improve health and reduce stress. Studies show that people with healthy relationships have more happiness and less stress.

We all encounter feelings of loneliness from time to time, but despite the experience being incredibly common, the signs of loneliness can vary immensely from person to person based on their gender, age, relationship status, mental health, or personal situation.

Abuse, kills the soul and scars the heart.

Abuse, I had to study it, in a quest of getting answers and an understanding on why it happens. Since abuse is extensive, in this article I will address only three types of abuses with some of the abuses like domestic violence, financial or material abuse falling into these categories.

A narcissist is someone who has a kind of mental illness. Narcissists are those people who have certain beliefs about themselves and their self-esteem which they think as the best in the world.

Bound by Silence

Who will hear me?

Who can I tell?

To whom shall I turn?

Have you been hurt and wounded? Have you been grieved or put through an injustice without so much as an apology or perhaps something that even an apology could not compensate or fix? Have you not dealt with your emotional pain intentionally but let it fester into bitterness?